Even as a little girl, I’ve always loved to make a positive impact on other people and the world around me. I thought if I could do more and be more, I could make those around me happy. From achieving honor-roll in grade school, to jetting off to England for my undergrad or Spain for my Master’s degree, I’ve always been optimistic, independent and strived to “do the right thing”.
As an adult, based in New York City, I rose to the top levels of my career in the fashion industry. One week I’d be working in Hong Kong, the next Tunisia, or Copenhagen. From Berlin to New York, some of my best memories are front row or backstage at fashion shows or trade shows in Barcelona or Istanbul. I’ve also always had a passion for education, in NYC, I taught at two liberal arts colleges as a professor while mentoring at children’s education charities.
Although I’d had a successful career, I noticed many of my personal relationships (friends, family, and romantic relationships) left me puzzled about love and the meaning of reciprocity in relationships. I questioned:
Why did loving someone else mean I couldn’t honor my own needs?
Why is it the more I would give, the more I was rejected or less accepted?
Why was it hard for me to break away from emotionally abusive relationships?
Why was the love I was getting (accepting) making me feel inadequate and confused?
Having a great career was no longer enough. After years of hard work, a lucrative career, after an auto-immune condition that resulted in a stem cell transplant, taking care of others many times while neglecting parts of myself, after unknowingly living in fight or flight mode from narcissistic and emotional abuse- I had a spiritual and emotional awakening.
Little did I know, I had been dealing with emotional abusers and narcissists almost my entire life. I realized I had been the perfect target (narcissistic supply). A giver, empathic, strong, people- pleasing, resilient (keep trying to make things right), determined and most of all – I had a need to PROVE my worth through DOING.
In every way, I found myself exhausted and I knew I needed a change. I found a therapist whom I was able to talk through my childhood into adulthood and be understood. I started working with a coach and was able to learn how to set boundaries, take radical personal responsibility, realize my inherent worth (without the constant doing), how to start putting my needs first, how to let go of ruminating thoughts, and re-balance my life through consistent actionable steps.
Today, I am a smiling survivor and thriver! I now know everything I’ve done or been through from the amazing to the most challenging has led me right here. Everyday I wake up with gratitude! I love I get to educate and inspire people just like YOU to live a life you love through emotional and spiritual healing.
One of my favorite quotes of all time is: “It All Starts With You”, by Trent Shelton. My approach to coaching is centered around teaching you how to take the emphasis off the narcissist / emotional abuser and putting it back on you! I will help you break through trauma bonds and limiting beliefs or any low level emotions you may be experiencing like fear, shame, blame, low self esteem, or guilt that may be holding you back. I believe inner peace is the “new” success!